I’m getting a lot better at flirting and reading non-verbal cues when to approach a woman that I might like. It’s never really the same scenario but hopefully my experiences can help others in their dating life.
I met my friend Steven at the Austin Bouldering Gym on Friday afternoon after work. There’s always a social aspect when it comes to climbing when waiting in-between routes.
As I was walking to the padded area from the lockers I saw a woman with her laptop in a short skirt, legs as far as the eye can see, sitting on the bench in her climbing shoes. She has a pretty cool sense of style and she had bangs and curly hair. She looked up, smiled, and we made eye contact. Mind you I was wearing my climbing pants and this fire outkast t-shirt that day so I was feeling extra confident.
I smiled back and I as I walked past I opened up with
Me: I like your hair!
Her: Thanks, I like your pants!
Me: What's your name?
Her: Isabella, what's yours?
Me: I'm Sul
Her: I'm in a meeting, but I'll see you in there?
Me: Sure!There was a lot of eye exchange and I could kind of tell immediately we were attracted to each other. In the gym, I had a bit of a testerone rush plus I was feeling great so I climbed pretty good with Steven. It’s also where I feel the most sexiest because I can show off my muscles.
She was with a group of friends and when she kind of separated from the pack to climb a problem I approached her again.
Me: Do you climb a lot?
Her: I just got a membership! Have you climbed a lot?
Me: Been doing it for like a decade and all our friends are in this gym,
we're just old timers. (Pointed to my friend)I forgot a bit of the conversation here however I went back to my friend and proceeded to climb more. Surprisingly, she came up after 10 or so minutes and told us:
Her: My friends are leaving, can I climb with you guys.From there we started figuring out we had a connection. She was british, love home policies and studying city infrastructure, loves kiwi, likes to climb, and had amazing big eyes. I think we were flirting with our bodies a bit. She wore a pretty short skirt for climbing where you kind have to look up but I think she knew. As we climbed/talked I eventually asked for her number before we parted ways in the gym.
The smile and the eye contact is the biggest giveaway to approach a woman. Even if she is in a meeting or “busy”, she is signaling to you it’s alright.
Have to be patient for those moments to happen, and take the opportunity or go find them. They do it exist.
