This is a letter to myself and a reminder as to what I should do ethically in dating.
I recently started actively dating again looking for a partner. It’s been messy, I’ve my fair share of rejections and the most common thing was just complete silence from the other end. I picked up this behaviour as it was being done to me. I didn’t really realize it but I also became a little bit of an asshole especially towards a girl that liked me. I didn’t like her in that way back and I didn’t think our personalities would have clicked in the long run.
Back in October, I was going through some heavy things at work and she sent me a lot of supportive messages. I read them and I was focused on work but I could have had the time to respond to her. I don’t know what she was thinking on the other end but I do know that I must have hurt that woman and that makes me feel like crap too.
I don’t know if this is going to help in finding love but if I don’t like someone and I am afraid to hurt their feelings then I need to do it. In the end it’s courteous, it ends any anxiety, and gives the other person closure.
This is still new for me and trying to figure out how to apologize. My mindset is to right my wrongs and care for people. Show some compassion and love which means going back and fixing things where I did act like an asshole. I don’t expect her to respond but in the next iteration if it happens I will be sure to communicate that to someone immediately instead of wasting their time.
